Back when I was dating I became aware of women using men for free dinners. I was shocked 😮, that’s how naive I was. Then I found myself in a situation where the guy probably thought that’s what I’d done to him; and it wasn’t at all. It’s just that I realized during the date—for which he’d gone “all out,” similar to what you’ve described— that I didn’t like him enough or enjoy his company enough to take it any further. It’s a fine line, sadly, between being true to oneself and risking hurting someone’s feelings. Unfortunately, there still exists an unspoken sense of “he spent a bunch of money on me and now he feels I OWE him something”(beyond a sincere thank you). It’s a set up for both parties to feel bad. Modern dating is long overdue for an overhaul.
I totally agree. If we were all genuinely honest with each other regardless of how we think it can make someone feel, then we’d be doing the right thing. We shouldn't think anything less of the right way and more of what the effects of what we do choose to do.
Short term is short term but long term affects both a man and woman in the long run. No one is indifferent to that emotional trauma. Treat someone how you would wanna be treated. Intimacy needs to be reinforced in the most elegant way.
Maybe 🤔 start with low (emotional) stakes coffee “dates” before doing the romantic dinner thing? Give each other the opportunity to bow out diplomatically or to move ahead more sincerely?
Agreed. It truly is exposing the sinfulness we carry inside and creating a profit off the domino effect of it. When did we become so irresponsible with one another? Do people not believe in consequences anymore? Or has this always been the case, now highlighted through the online world?
So many questions. But also so many reasons to bring love and true intimacy back into the fold. It has become the luxury we feel like we cannot attain.
I appreciate this comment a lot. I'm happy that the readings aren't interpreted from a surface level point of view. A reassurance that Ive done my job. 👏🏾
If you didn't comment before me just maybe she matured and she got bored with Snapchat. Because not all women run to their girlfriends if they have them it's caddy maybe her life just got busy and she needed someone to step up instead of just looking at a screen
We’ve all been a Tempura Prawn starter. Good thing she didn’t order the lobster 🦞
Agreed. Heartbreak and a hefty bill? Damnn
Ghosting quietly denies the other person dig.
Very selfish culture
Totally agree.
I'm curious when and where was the date to have to take an uber anyways? why did he not just pick her up in your own transportation ?????
Just how the story panned out this time😉
Back when I was dating I became aware of women using men for free dinners. I was shocked 😮, that’s how naive I was. Then I found myself in a situation where the guy probably thought that’s what I’d done to him; and it wasn’t at all. It’s just that I realized during the date—for which he’d gone “all out,” similar to what you’ve described— that I didn’t like him enough or enjoy his company enough to take it any further. It’s a fine line, sadly, between being true to oneself and risking hurting someone’s feelings. Unfortunately, there still exists an unspoken sense of “he spent a bunch of money on me and now he feels I OWE him something”(beyond a sincere thank you). It’s a set up for both parties to feel bad. Modern dating is long overdue for an overhaul.
I totally agree. If we were all genuinely honest with each other regardless of how we think it can make someone feel, then we’d be doing the right thing. We shouldn't think anything less of the right way and more of what the effects of what we do choose to do.
Short term is short term but long term affects both a man and woman in the long run. No one is indifferent to that emotional trauma. Treat someone how you would wanna be treated. Intimacy needs to be reinforced in the most elegant way.
Maybe 🤔 start with low (emotional) stakes coffee “dates” before doing the romantic dinner thing? Give each other the opportunity to bow out diplomatically or to move ahead more sincerely?
A beautiful solution. 10/10.
Yet some still think only about themselves while getting involved with others.
I like this idea and will definitely encourage my friends to do the same.
Sometimes I think all this shiny new tech was the worst thing to happen to mankind since Oppenheimer.
Agreed. It truly is exposing the sinfulness we carry inside and creating a profit off the domino effect of it. When did we become so irresponsible with one another? Do people not believe in consequences anymore? Or has this always been the case, now highlighted through the online world?
So many questions. But also so many reasons to bring love and true intimacy back into the fold. It has become the luxury we feel like we cannot attain.
But a true luxury when you have it.
Many fall for the illusion of no consequences and anonymity online. But an illusion is exactly what it is.
👏🏾10/10
Very well done 10
Thank you
I appreciate you taking the time to help people navigate ghosting.
I appreciate this comment a lot. I'm happy that the readings aren't interpreted from a surface level point of view. A reassurance that Ive done my job. 👏🏾
I am ghosted by potential employers all the time
Brazy world we live in. So many examples. Not enough conversations.
If you didn't comment before me just maybe she matured and she got bored with Snapchat. Because not all women run to their girlfriends if they have them it's caddy maybe her life just got busy and she needed someone to step up instead of just looking at a screen
Definitely a case to case scenario. Many possibilities exist.